I am truly sorry to hear this. I wish you and your wife all the best. This is a sad situation, and I do not have any real hope or recommendations to offer. Most doctors seem to be extremely afraid of pain management - the fear of being sued for too much or too little care. Best wishes to you both.

I would say, though, that her employer should be taken to court, or at least threatened with legal action. It does nothing to help you at this point, but perhaps they would be more responsive to a lawsuit or bad publicity.