Shouldn't your standard of living be tied to the coices you make? The fact that you had a baby was a decision you made, knowing full well that it could affect your standard of living. If you choose to blow a grand a week at the track, you don't get to have nice things. No one cares if you have a gambling problem. You just spent your money on something, it doesn't entitle you to earn more so you can afford the same kind of car as everyone else at your office.

I look at it this way, a company only has so much money for payroll expenses. If someone gets a raise because they have a kid, it DOES affect me because there is less headroom for ME to get a raise.